Do video games ruin social skills?

Do video games ruin social skills?

Scott. Yes. I got a fact for you. Okay. You
ready for a fact? For the average person in the United States these days–mm-hmm–by the
time they turn 21–mm-hmmm–they will have played video games–mm-hmmm–for 10,000 hours.
Yeah sounds about right. Oh you’re not surprised? No. Not at all. Your not like brain explosion?
No, no, by the time I was 21 I was at like 50,000 hours. Well you’re the right person
to talk to then. Yeah, should be. Scott Bromley host of Rev3 Games, thanks so
much for coming on. Thanks for having me. Glad we got to hang out in this alcove I guess
it would be. Yeah. We’re just rapping in an alcove. We’re just rapping, you know. Speaking
of Rev3 Games–mm-hmmm–and speaking of Social Studies, the show that you are on right now,
I wanted to talk about this stereotype of video-gaming being bad for your social life.
That’s not true. First of all, there’s the online aspect where you go online, you play
games with people and you actually have to talk to them. Now yes given there is a whole
lot of racism, homophobia, trash-talking, you know typical teenage, teenage stuff that
happens but now with the new consoles like the XBox One and the PS4, they actually let
you decide which, which group you want to interact with, like how you want to talk to
people, people who talk a lot of trash, people who don’t, people who just have you know casual
conversations with one another. Oh. I host a podcast in the video game section–what
is your podcast called Scott–it’ called Comedy Button, duh, plug, plug, plug–that show is,
is for a video game audience not about video games and because we do that it’s bringing
this, it’s bringing all the kids together–yeah–who just play video games but then they, they
would go onto the forums and make friends with each other because they play video games,
they will start playing video games with each other and now a couple of them are actually
dating–really?–in real life, yes. You’re–Brought together through a show who played a video
game together and then started having more offline conversations, met in person, fell
in love and now are dating. Scott, you are a matchmaker. I–yeah. You realize this? Yeah.
You’re kind of a matchmaker. They need to name their fist child after me. That right
here in a nutshell debunks this entire games as poor social skills because these people
are not only making friends, they’re making lovers–yes, mm-hmmm–as well. Yeah. Gaming
has a real stigma attached to it that oh, gamers are these sheltered nerdy people that
don’t like to go out. The truth of the matter is everyone nowadays has a smartphone. On
their smartphones they are always playing something like Candy Crush. I’ve never played
Candy Crush. Just I haven’t–Okay but–alright good! Congratulations you’re not addicted
but there are a lot of normal people, normal, I say that in quotes, not categorize themselves
as gamers who play Candy Crush all the time. Mm-hmm. You’re a gamer. That is a video game.
You are probably participating in micro-transactions. That is something that most hardcore gamers
don’t actually participate in. They will play the game for free so they’re going a step
above. The stigma of the video gaming being you know, everyone is just kind of closed
off it’s breaking down especially with, in the world of handheld gaming. There’s still
so many studies that you see being done particularly on children’s gaming behaviors and how they
socialize and yet people like Jane McGonigal who is an evangelist for gaming has said that
video games actually promote social skills in kids. The younger generation now even at
three and four are being handed iPads. They are learning how to game. Their brains are
working faster now, they’re learning social skills with other kids. Gaming is bringing
them together in the schoolyard, which it kind of did in my day too. There was always
the kid who was like my uncle works at Nintendo, I’ve played Super Mario Brothers 5 and you’re
like you’re a liar but I’m going to hang out with you anyway because I want to hear about
this thing. When are we finally going to give this stereotype up? Uhhh, I would say this
generation we’re going to get closer especially with systems like the Xbox One, you can watch
TV, you can watch movies, you can play video games, you can Skype with people, you can
do everything with this one box. A lot of more “normal” people will start getting those
in their homes and you know dipping into video games and then it’s just going to become this
thing that we all do. Just like we used to gather around and play board games–or read
books!–yeah how about–how about books? What’s a book? I know right? Who are you? Those dumb
things. Well Scott thank you so much–thank you–for coming on and thanks for myth-busting
this because I feel like it is high time for this video game stigma to just go away. Yeah.
It’s outdated. Game over man. Game over. Game over. That’s the perfect pun to close this
thing out with. Bring it down. But I want to know what you think, I mean do you think
there is anything to this gaming socializing stereotype or like Scott do you think that
there’s absolutely nothing to it and that gaming can actually help you learn to socialize?
Let me know in the comments and Scott, tell folks where they can find you. You can find
me at Rev3 Games, that’s or Thanks again Scott. Thank
you very much. And thanks for watching and don’t forget to subscribe.

73 thoughts on “Do video games ruin social skills?”

  1. I completely agree with you Scott.  We don't live in such a big world anymore.  Video games, along with the interwebs, have transformed our social community from the local friendships that we've built into a entirely global one.  I have friends that live all over the world that I wouldn't have found if it wasn't for the gaming community.  You're right, the stigma of the anti-social gamer is that of an age gone by, but I don't think that it'll be all daisies and roses in the future.  There will ever be the disagreement between who is, and who is not, a "real" gamer.     

  2. Bullshit dude I play videogames and it does not fucking help your social skills for shit, if any it makes you shitty at socialzing

  3. Gaming can help OTHER people learn to socialize, but not me. I suck at multiplayer of any sort and am just a little poor so I stick with single player games that are a few years old (Fallout New Vegas, for instance) and annoy the shit out of everyone I'm around constantly talking about my progress in them.

  4. I play games my WHOLE life and i have pretty bad social skills… but that comes from different thing than Gaming (namely Bullying in my scool days from which i havend recoverd jet) Far to many People think that Gamer are Bad People for doing that what they enjoy… True is that video games realy dont help your social skill after a certain point (when you learnd how to small talk and greet properly) though they arent realy Bad in any shape or form… what i found was that they "can" make you fucking smart and help you learn foreign languages because they bring you so much deeper into the the internetz. 😀 Greets AYellowPepper

  5. If anything, games help me be social. 🙂 I'm a friendly and open person, but an introvert. When I feel the need to get away and be on my own, even for a few hours, video games are a great way for me to not think about my own life and live in a fantastical world for awhile. I'm not me, I'm the hero of a a faraway land, a commander of a space military organization, or even just another girl in america who happens to have special powers. When I'm done playing and go back to doing real life things, I feel so energized. Doing these epic conquests in games make me feel achieved, which improves my mood, which makes me all the more pleasant and enthusiastic while I'm out with friends while sitting in a cafe, or out shopping, or going on day trips.

  6. I think there's more to the aspect just shrugged off here about the gaming community being rife with homophobia, racism, and most horribly misogyny. Women attempting to participate in gaming culture receive ridiculous amounts of hate and prejudice, not something i associate with healthy social skills.

  7. Met my husband through World of Warcraft, were friends for years and finally did the long distance thing for a few years and now we are married with a little one. I love getting to know people online, you get to know them as a person before you see a face, you get to know and love who they are without first impression judgement. I've always been more of the girl who liked to date men I was friends with first, so the dating scene didn't work well for me after I moved out of state away from all my friends. Online gaming was a great way to make male friends without the awkwardness of a "date" and without the expectations of more than hanging out so it made making friendships easier and it enabled me to befriend the man I married before we started to "date" just the way I like it 😉

  8. I don't know if gaming makes social skills better or worse.
    I have decent social skills but I get drained of energy when I talk to more than two people so I tend to stay away from social gatherings. Gaming is one group activity that I can enjoy because I get to be focused on what I am doing without the overwhelming stuff that face to face interaction requires.

  9. well i think that there are deffentely people who do play games and never go out side bu ti also agree that most gamers are plenty social.

  10. I met my husband while playing World of Warcraft.  We met in Ventrilo, which is a way to speak with others online in a group or solo, mostly for gaming but you don't have to play to be on it. There are several brands, Skype, Ventrilo, Teamspeak, ect.  We played together and I got to see how he handles groups of people, how he handles stress, how he handles difficult people, and how his strategy and brain works.  We chatted and played games together for nine months until he moved to my town and married me. First we married in the game of WoW, then in real life.   We have been married for over 3 years, still sure of each other, and still gaming together.  I also got to speak with people all over the world in the games, all ages, even helped out a few teens with counseling while gaming. I had a head injury and gaming has helped me with eye-hand coordination, memory, dealing with others, and math skills.  You are constantly figuring stats in the games for armor, weapons, and talent trees.  As far as solo gaming all the time, I don't think it is good to be solo constantly, but when joining the gaming community, the opportunities are endless. 

  11. +TriatianPEJ You can't honestly tell me that what's said in video game lobbies by some 12 year olds is any different to the types of offensive comments you will see plastered all over the internet in forums, social sites and YouTube video comment sections. I'm not saying that makes it any better I'm simply saying that is the dark side of the internet caused by online dishibition and is not something simply associated with gaming.

  12. Having spent time in game chat listening to inbred kids talking I can see why people would think gaming stunts the development of social skills, but on the other hand I have met some really nice people, two of whom live the other end of the country & I would never have met otherwise.

  13. Not even going to lie… I'm 17  …and I'm PRETTY sure I've played videogames for WAYYYYYYY more than 10,000 hours O_O

  14. I don't believe that video games ruin social skills but that if you aren't a very socially inclined person then you may be drawn to gaming as a hobby.

  15. I think video gaming is allowing us to communicate in different ways to which some of the older generations are familiar with. because of this you will see people insisting that these newer forms of communication are not in fact communication, forgetting that they would have grown up with (land line) phones while the generations before them were restrained to letter writing. and lets not forget that communicative methods will continue to advance even to a point where we may find it scarily advanced and refuse to use it.

  16. most gamers i know are really carefree and confident in themselves. and most are usually very creative and open minded aswell 

  17. Huge thanks to Scott Bromley for rappin' with me about games. Super nice, funny, smart dude!

  18. Another good vid! I see a lot of people throwing the entire community under the bus over a few areas of gaming where the games in particular are highly competitive and attract overbearing egos(FPS, PvP) and I find that many of the people are basically recycling the same argument made primarily in memes. Not too long ago a stat was thrown around that states that the majority of the gaming community is comprised of adults whom last I checked, understand how to use a mute button. There are also blocking abilities if certain jerks persist with msgs. Things are getting better, you just have to consider that even though online chat capabilities have been around for a decade, it's still very new to a lot of people young and old. Much like the chat rooms of the 90s. Rant over sorry 🙁 I really just wanted to say that I met my current girlfriend while playing 1v100 on xblive 3yrs ago and now we live together, game together.

  19. I would like to hear about how gaming is so sexist. It has always been kind of shocking to me how people on video games stores aren't nice to me and how they treat us differently on social media ("it's a woman, they don't know games, go make me a sandwich"). I know not all gamers are like this but I thought it was important to point it out and try to make it stop.

  20. I definitely don't think that gaming stunts social skills. Quite the opposite, really. Although not a video game, I'm fairly certain that the majority of my social skills came from playing Magic: The Gathering at a local store. I've made a lot of friends there, and it helped me sort of figure out interacting with people.

  21. For my semester-long English paper, my topic was about how gaming has been my greatest source of friendships, outside of academics, and how it has been the greatest help in lowering my introverted tendencies.

  22. Lol, ya everyone knew someone like that: "My uncle got his hands on pokemon green! Not the Japanese one but the newest pokemon for the US!" This was way before leaf green, mind you. He was full of it.

  23. been playing video games before ps1 even came out.. if it's something I did since childhood I don't think I will get over it.. and I think 10,000 hours is too small of a number

  24. The video game industry is really socially centered these days. We want to get back to being geeks, because some of us are ugly, obese, and have talking problems. Now people from the real world are invading us, and making fun of us. And we wanted to escape from that. Gaming was our virgin utopia, not this fame-infested general public-ignorant real world from which we ran. We should stick to old consoles, and games with older graphics, as that's the real utopia we we're dreaming about, not this! Whoever wants to kill artificial terrorists and other people just to find someone to have sex with two times a day, or who wants to be social should go back to partying, getting pregnant and listening to bad music in the real world, where you belong!

  25. i'm 19 and i have about 50,000 actually logged hours on the computer(going through my games and viewing hours played) and who knows how much unlogged and console games. im also very introverted but i get along with people very well and do very well in school.

  26. Could you do some sort of video or podcast about why women don't play video games as much as men? What about the medium entices males so much more than females? Is it socialization? The often violent or sexist elements? In the same way, why do women watch more TV then men? 

  27. Well what I like about gaming (im a woman and I game) is the fact that with the anonimity you can see how people are, so you can be with the best and sweetest, or the worst people, after that you just have to chose your side.That is how Ive met the sweetest and smartest people in my life because everyday people dont want to know shit about you because this society is so closed minded. And no I really don`t think it ruins the social skills I like to go out and have friends and all that stuff we do everyday. I dont even have a cellphone XD

  28. Never in my wildest dream have I imagined Rev3Games would cross over with this channel. I watch both for the longest time. Can you get Adam Sessler in? Pretty please. 🙂

  29. Just like any tool it can be good or bad depending how you use it. If you use it to productively vent anger or to play with others far away because your in the middle of nowhere it can be good. But if your using it to get ideas for vengeance or to avoid people because you can't predict there actions or to avoid life in general it is destructive. Just like the knife in my pocket, useful but if your not careful it will cut you.

  30. they help! I have multiple real life friends that I have meet from gaming. And when there are gaming events they help bring everyone closer. 

  31. Video games made me realize that approaching people isn't that hard. You just walk up to them and press A. If things get awkward, you just press start to pause so you can think about what to do next. If it goes terribly wrong, you press reset.

  32. While this video over all was great and Scott does seem like a great guy, I disagree that racism, homophobia and trash-talking is 'typical' of teenage stuff that happens. I think its wrong to normalise it in any way

  33. I must be the most unpopular, disliked people in my whole school. And I play video games. A lot. In fact, that's part of the reason I am unpopular. So that means that I think that video games do ruin social skills, right? Wrong. Actually, I think that video games inprove social skills.

  34. Good to point out Candy Crush. There are women out there who'll spend hours on Angry Birds or Candy Crush, but totally look down on people who play WOW or Call of Duty. It's the same thing…lol. 

  35. I think a big part of this stigma is that this thing that's such a big part of the kid's life is something they just couldn't talk about because it just wasn't a big thing, which did cause them to just be less interested in talking to people, and then the stigma arose, making things worse.

  36. I feel like video games teach communication skills rather than social skills, which are a bit different in my own observations.

  37. Yeah, it does. People who spend most of their time online have very poor social skills. They don't have a large vocabulary, don't know how to politely disagree, and have few real face to face relationships, like friends they actually go places with. Approaching someone online is worlds apart from talking to someone in person.

  38. I just want to say something to all those people who don't believe this video.  One time movies were looked down upon like games, same with comic books.  That is why i give this horrible gaming stereotype 25 years before gaming is welcomed into society.

  39. I met my first love on Xbox Live. Gaming was my high school social life. Everyday after school I'd rush home to my xbox and spend all day playing Halo with friends. It didn't matter how shitty kids at school made me feel because I always had something to look forward to.

  40. A study was done on returning soldiers from iraq suffering from PTSD. They have found First Person Shooters with Internet play time was shown to be VERY therapeutic for the soldier suffering from PTSD. Especially if its a Military style of game. Now if they have friends who served in say Battlefield and they talk on the headset its more therapeutic since they have a bond.

  41. say games didn't exist. would staring at a wall all day improve social skills? I get that gaming and staring at a wall are 2 different things, but when you game, you interact a lot differently then you do in real life and there is no pressure put on you. that's why a lot of the trash talk and memes on the internet exist, because people are too afraid to brand themselves to that attitude. in real life, things count. on your computer you can make an idiot of yourself then just turn off the screen

  42. The problem is that people who have problems are drawn to video games. All games can show us aspects of ourselves, from modern cover-based shooters, small-scale platformers, to tabletop classics. Video games elevate the instincts that built into most social creatures to an art form. Art is something that can be serious even when it is strictly about fooling around, which many games do not focus on. Sadly, there are people like myself who just are not stable enough to take it for what it is and become addicts. Don't blame the medium.

  43. I hate people. Even in games, especially those noobs that you get paired up with in ranked matches. Gaming and the Internet in general made me hate them even more.

  44. The popularity of video games has raised questions among parents, educators, and policymakers on the potential negative effects of playing video games. Plenty of studies have surfaced since then, each focusing on effects like aggression and anxiety. While playing video games may not necessarily hinder a child’s social growth, new evidence suggests that behavioral effects of frequent gaming may only manifest in pre-teen girls.

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