How to get stuff done when you are depressed | Jessica Gimeno | TEDxPilsenWomen

How to get stuff done when you are depressed | Jessica Gimeno | TEDxPilsenWomen


Translator: Kamile Viezelyte
Reviewer: Giang Pham
Depression takes practice.
Now, some of you may hear that and say:
“Jessica, that’s preposterous.
Do you know my boss?
Have you met my ex?
Don’t you know that mental illness
runs in my family?
I don’t have to try to be depressed.
It just happens.
What I’m saying, is that living well with
depression takes practice.
Being productive every day, despite
depression, takes practice.
Being a student or an employee with
depression takes practice.
I’ve had experience with depression
both personally and professionally,
but before I go there, I want to share
with you a few numbers that illustrate
how depression impacts all of us,
as a society.
According to the World Health Organisation
by the year 2020, depression will be
the second-greatest disability in the
world, second only to blindness.
The National Institute of Mental Health
tells us that depression is the number one
disability among Americans ages 15-24,
preventing millions of people from
being able to finish school
or hold down a job.
Psychology today calls it ‘presenteeism’,
the phenomenon by which companies
lose billions of dollars every year in
lost productivity to depressed employees
who come to work but don’t actually work.
All of this means that depression can be
as debilitating as a physical obstacle.
For instance, carrying a cane.
But, with a visible disability, we assume
it will take practice to cope,
including things like physical therapy.
Yet when it comes to depression, we think
that a label and medication are enough to cope.
Now, I’ve worked in mental health
non-profit for years.
And while I’m thankful for the great
strides we’ve made
with anti-stigma campaigns, it’s time
to go beyond getting a diagnosis,
into giving people actual coping
mechanisms.
Because without coping mechanisms,
we’re trapped in a downward spiral.
Being depressed leads to falling behind,
falling behind leads to more depression.
So let me tell you why I care so deeply
about this cause.
I had a happy childhood, I was the
youngest of 15 grandchildren,
and we were very close. And yet,
in spite of faith, family, friends,
I had these moments of darkness and the
only way I could describe it would be to
call them flashes of grey, in an otherwise
cotton candy childhood.
I remember my first episode, I was
8 years old, and we were going to school,
and all of a sudden I thought, gosh,
all this feels meaningless.
Like, I don’t know, I just feel like
I’m gonna live seventy years,
and die, and go to Heaven, so,
I don’t know why we go to school,
I don’t know why we go to work,
I just feel– I just feel really empty.
And thankfully those moments
were very fast.
However, when I became a teenager,
those moments of darkness,
they stretched into hours, and hours
became weeks,
and sometimes hours and weeks
became months.
And during these depressive episodes,
I would have crying spells,
I found it difficult to concentrate
on anything,
sometimes I did have suicidal thoughts.
But just as bizarrely as these depressive
episodes came, they left.
And they were replaced with episodes of
genuine stability and happiness,
and sometimes highs where it would take me
5 to 6 hours to fall asleep,
and I would have extreme outbursts of
artistic creativity, where I could
finish a painting that takes 4 weeks to
make in 4 hours.
And so, the roller-coaster of mood swings
continued until I had an epiphany
when I was 18 years old.
I was a freshman in college and a friend
with bipolar disorder committed suicide.
This prompted me to research the illness.
And everything started to click –
I realised I had half the symptoms
of bipolar disorder; it explained the
inexplicable episodes of depression,
the highs due to what we now know as
hypomania, where I couldn’t sleep and
I had racing thoughts.
So I saw the campus psychiatrist, who
diagnosed me with bipolar II,
and I got a second opinion, which
confirmed the diagnosis.
Now, with therapy and medication,
things were much better.
But something was missing.
What nobody taught me was how to get
stuff done when I was depressed.
So, on my own I developed
creative strategies.
I graduated from Northwestern University
cum laude with two majors,
I competed for Northwestern speech team,
I was a state champion, a national
quarter-finalist, a national semifinalist.
I also co-founded an organisation to help
depressed students on campus.
But bipolar disorder was not my only foe.
When I was 19, I was diagnosed with a very
painful polycistic ovarian syndrome.
And then when I was 24 years old, an
autoimmune neuromuscular hurricane
by the name Myasthenia Gravis
invaded my life.
I’ll never forget my first episode.
I was climbing up this long flight of
stairs at work, this beautiful sunny day,
when all of a sudden I couldn’t feel
anything below my waist.
And so I kept falling, and falling,
and I could hear my high heels
tumbling down the stairs.
At first I thought, you know, where are my
quadriceps? I know I brought them with me
when I left the house this morning.
But then, my thoughts turned somber as
students stepped over my limp body,
in a rush to get to class.
And my mind was screaming ‘Get up!’
But my body couldn’t move.
And I couldn’t speak.
A few weeks after that, I was diagnosed
and hospitalized in critical condition
with Myasthenia Gravis.
The doctor gave me a 50/50 shot of living.
And that was 7 years ago.
So today, I carry a cane for the
Myasthenia Gravis.
People often ask me: ‘Hey, what’s it like
to live with 5 diseases?’
And I tell them the truth, I say: ‘Well, I
see myself as Rocky and my 5 diseases as
Rocky’s different opponents.’
So, bipolar disorder is Apollo Creed,
the polycistic ovarian syndrome is
definitely Ivan Drago,
Myasthenia Gravis is Mason Dixon, asthma
is Clubber Lang,
and psoriasis is Tommy Gunn.
The odds of getting the first 3 of these 5
diseases are 1 in 50 million.
And after that I stopped counting ‘cos I
just didn’t think there was a point.
So, every day I wake up in pain and what
I do when I wake up is
I play ‘Eye of the Tiger’, and I put on my
Rocky boxing gloves, and I pray to God
for strength to get through another day.
Today, I’m a health activist, a writer,
and a speaker,
I have my own award-winning blog,
‘Fashionably ill’, which is about
surviving pain with style and humor,
and I’m a contributor to several other
websites, including The Huffington Post,
MSNBC did a documentary on my life,
Psych Central named me a mental health
hero, and right now, I’m really excited
about a project I’m working on;
I’m consulting on a project with
Rutgers University and University of
Massachusetts medical school.
We’re developing a program that will help
young adults with severe mental illness
finish school and find meaningful
employment.
And that’s the thing I wanna talk about
today,
it’s how to get stuff done when
you’re depressed.
The three themes we’re going to address
are proactiveness, urgency and difficulty.
So, proactiveness. What does it mean to
be proactive?
Do you have a plan for the next time
you get depressed?
So, let me give you an analogy:
Over the years, my Myasthenia Gravis has
gotten better with medication,
physical therapy, nutritional supplements,
practice.
But there are still times when, all of
a sudden, I can’t feel my legs,
or I’ll lose feeling in one half of my
body, either the left or the right side.
The other day, I was talking to one of my
students, I coach high school debate,
and I could sense that I was losing
feeling in my legs.
So immediately, I sprang into action.
I clutched my cane harder because I knew
what was coming.
In the same way, when I sense that I’m
getting depressed, I spring into action.
I call my therapist right away, schedule
an appointment,
I start exercising more than usual.
Because exercise releases endorphins,
the feel-good hormones,
that help us fight stress and depression.
But, in order to make a plan, you need to
know two things:
Your symptoms of depression and the
strategies that work for you.
When we usually talk about the symptoms
of depression, it’s a generic list.
You’ve probably seen it in a pamphlet or
read it somewhere on the Internet.
But the truth is, no two people are
exactly alike.
So what are your symptoms of depression?
Some people, when they’re depressed,
they lose their appetite.
Other people tend to overeat when
they’re depressed.
Some people have insomnia. For others,
they sleep too much.
Some people have outbursts of anger;
and still, many people with depression
have no temper at all.
Know yourself.
In addition to knowing your symptoms, you
need to identify now what strategies
work for you.
So, what do you need when you
get depressed?
If it faith, is it family, is it friends,
is it exercise, is it reading,
is it listening to music?
Identify these strategies now so that
when you see your symptoms,
you can spring into action.
The other day, my niece gave me a pleasant
surprise visit,
and I was really happy to see her.
When she hugged me, she said:
‘Tita Jessica, did you know you have
toothpaste in your hair?’
And so I’ve learned that toothpaste
in hair equals depression.
For me, anyway.
Know yourself, plan now, don’t wait,
be proactive.
The best defence is a good offence.
In addition to being proactive, we need
to understand the concept of urgency.
Urgency is about drowning out wild noise
and focusing on what’s the most important.
So, let me give you an example
of what not to do.
In college I had this class called
‘The sociology of crime’.
And once in a while, the professor would
show us clips from classic mafia movies,
like ‘The Godfather’ and ‘Goodfellas’.
And so I had this brilliant plan
for the midterm.
I mean, I thought it was a great plan.
And I was going to finish reading the
whole textbook, I was gonna review
all the lecture notes, and I was gonna
watch all of those mafia movies.
So, the test was on a Tuesday.
I reserved Sunday for watching
all those mafia movies:
‘Godfather’, ‘Goodfellas’, ‘Casino’.
And Sunday came and went, watched all
those movies,
I reserved Monday for reading the
textbook.
Monday came, and I woke up depressed.
And then I stayed depressed.
So, Tuesday morning came, and I hadn’t
read a thing.
I went into the exam, and for every
question on the test, I kid you not,
my answers were: ‘Well, in Goodfellas,
Henry Hill, played by Ray Liotta,
he did this,’ or, ‘Lorraine Bracco did
that,’ or, ‘According to Vito Corleone…’
Wouldn’t it be great if my professor
rewarded me for temerity of my answers?
He didn’t.
(Laughter)
He said while it was great that I had
mastered mafia cinema,
he would appreciate it if I read the
textbook next time.
So, obviously, if I had to do it all over
again, studying the textbook was a 100,
no, maybe a million times more important
than watching ‘The Godfather’.
Urgency is about being able to understand
what is most important
and what is most pressing.
So, I keep a daily to-do list.
If something’s due today, it gets 4 stars,
if it’s due tomorrow, 3 stars,
sometime this week, 2 stars,
next week, 1 star.
And when I’m depressed, I ignore anything
that has less than 3 stars.
Urgency is also about being able to say no
to non-essential tasks.
So, meeting your work deadline
is essential.
The church bake sale is non-essential.
When we say yes to everything,
we amplify our stress.
One of my friends’ mom, a pastor, says:
‘If you can’t say no, then your yeses
mean nothing.’
Third and finally, getting stuff done when
you’re depressed is about
understanding difficulty.
So, when I’m depressed, I label all tasks
as a 1, 2 or a 3.
If it’s an easy task, it’s a 1.
Examples include eating breakfast or
taking a shower.
If it’s a moderately difficult task,
it’s a 2,
and a 3 is reserved for difficult tasks.
For example, finishing a paper in college
or scheduling an appointment with your
child’s teacher, or meeting a difficult
work deadline.
And when I’m depressed, I focus on
finishing all the 1 level tasks first.
And every time I cross something off my
list, even if it’s taking a shower, I feel
empowered and I think: ‘Bipolar, watch
out, I’m coming, I got this!’
And as I finish off all the 1 and 2 level
tasks, I build the confidence to tackle
the 3 level tasks.
And you can also help yourself by turning
a 3 level task into a 1 level task.
So, I remember a time when I was in my
therapist’s office and I told her:
You know, I wanna exercise because
experience has told me that when I
exercise, I feel better about my
bipolar disorder.
But I’m just too depressed to do 30 mins
of exercise right now.
And she said to me:
If you don’t have 30 minutes, can you just
give me 10 minutes?
That was life-changing advice.
So now I aim for 10 minutes.
And 10 becomes 20.
And 20 minutes becomes 30 minutes.
Today we’ve talked about 3 themes in
getting stuff done when you’re depressed.
They’re proactiveness, urgency
and difficulty.
Almost always when I use these strategies,
they work.
But there are days when the bipolar
disorder or the ovarian disease,
or the Myasthenia Gravis, or
all of the above win.
And when that happens, I remind myself
of something that I want to share
with all of you.
I want to share this with anyone
listening, who fights depression,
or who loves someone that does.
Yes, depression is real.
But hope is real.
Courage is real.
Resilience is real.

100 thoughts on “How to get stuff done when you are depressed | Jessica Gimeno | TEDxPilsenWomen”

  1. Wow that is crazy I had my first depression episode at age 8 as well. It was horrible I realized people were gonna die eventually and that is all that I could think about. Nothing mattered to me because everyone was gonna die. I wasted so much time and I was so afraid of wasting anytime away from people I loved. This lasted a year. A whole year of my life and things were back to normal until a year ago. But I struggle with getting depressed like she said and falling behind and then get depressed because I fell behind. much like the top comment I struggle with getting things done on time. The anxiety gets bad too I get really anxious. To the point where I scream in the car just to release some of it. My interactions with family has become worse. They tell me I use to be the nicest boy and now I can not control my aggression. I will get mad or just yell because of all the things in my head. Beat on my bed just yelling. I have been late to school almost everyday and my parents write me notes so I am all right but everyday I can not motivate myself out of bed. Some days I do not even go anymore. Very hard time focusing as well very hard

  2. This is one of the best Ted Talks I've ever found on Youtube. Thank you very much Jessica. God bless you🍃🌷

  3. Misleading titled video containing disappointingly little substance. 90% her personal achievements life story [problem] followed with "just do it" attitude [not a solution]. The only TED talk I've ever felt the speaker used the opportunity to just talk about herself rather than to help/inform others.

  4. If someone tells you another method to beat depression and your response is comment how bad you have it.. I’m sorry but your already defeated. You gotta fight for your life.

  5. I wish I had her tenacity versus my desire to die.. she’s she uplifting that me wanting to die cancels the desire to end it all.. I thank her for me being alive today

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  7. It’s sad I know all the tools and lifestyle changes I need to do to help break the cycle but I can’t motivate myself to do it. That makes it even more demoralising and depressing. It feels like Groundhog Day over and over.

  8. Thank you so much for this ted talk I am bipolar and I have the polyscyctic stuff too. Its very hard being on birthcontrol they unstablize me

  9. She was so successful despite her diseases because she had a very supportive family and school. I am a 4.0 student with Depression, but I don't have any supportive family and I am invisible at school as well. Just having one supportive person would help a lot…

  10. I loved how she put everything in perspective 💗 we cannot compare our circumstances with hers or any other person. But we can take the positive bits that apply to us.

  11. AMAZING talk! I have been vegan for about a year now and have felt the positive changes in my attitude and how I take care of myself and others. I never put 2 and 2 together about the negative lives that slaughter animals live and how their emotions, that energy, could very well be transferring to us as the consumer. We are all energy, and our emotions are energy, how could it not transfer to us? Again, amazing talk and thank you so much for this new found look on a way of life.

  12. I feel like she’s boasted too much throughout this talk and her speech lacks personal connection. Her voice is loud and overbearing almost. Lots of people with depression will benefit from this because there are great tips, but tips are for regular healthy people. They don’t always cut it when you’re sick. Productivity tips won’t help people who are bedridden by their depression, unmotivated, and can’t find pleasure in anything. At least not for me anyway

  13. Just take it easy when depressed, numb and/or exhausted from mania/hypomania and be kind to yourself. It's easier said than done. Med combo tests&adjustments, therapy, workouts… they all help but there is no cure. Medication can help create a cushion/barrier but when the mood swings/mix moods decide to team up… There is only so much you can do.
    (and f*king med side effects when you get misdiagnosed at first or try meds that don't work with your body, etc…nobody really talks about these things -_-)

  14. I just love how she explains how depression is disabling. Lots of people don't understand why I can't finish school or even keep my apartment clean. They are empathic to the way I feel but don't understand why I can't do these physical tasks.

  15. She is saying if she can do it anyone one can do it. That should encourage you! It’s not about drive or motivation. It’s about having discipline

  16. I am suffering from bipoar disorder,pos, asthma n depression n obesity n amenorrohoea too 😌
    The wore more than you is I am lack of self confident .

  17. I see people as a wheel. If you get a nail in the tire the entire tire wobbles and can go flat. Now see the wheel with four side… the body, mind, emotion and spiritual. If any of those has a nail… we wobble.

    Helping the body. First, get a physical. Imbalances can cause physical, emotional and mental problems. Thyroid problems for instance can push in all kinds of places to include sleep problems or not being able keeping you mind quiet. Quit sugar and white flour. Our gut has what is called flora or bacteria… for simplicity's sake, good guys and bad guys. The bad guys grow on sugar and they have a direct influence on our desire for more sugar along with our emotions. You'll feel down, reach for "comfort" foods like cakes, candy, ice cream etc and a bit you'll feel better BUT.. the bad guys also stop your body from taking the needed nutrition you need and you'll always feel like eating because of that. So you eat loads of sugar, feel down, don't have the energy or desire to do anything whether you have to or not. Not getting the nutrition you need you body breaks down and you get sick easier. Your immune system crashes, your nervous system has problems, your sleep gets worse… essentially you spiral down. Ah, the good guy. Feed them probiotics. I buy pickles and sauerkraut that have been fermented the old fashion way using salt. Don't buy the vinegar type. Vinegar kill good biotics. I only eat a 1/2" slice of pickle along with a tablespoon of juice once or twice a day. I buy Bubbies. It is a good tasting NY style dill/garlic pickle. If you have acid reflux, I use "Olive My Pickle" brand of "Dill Pickles". They aren't quite as spicy AND bonus it will cure your acid reflux. Look into prebiotics. Superfood for probiotics.

    Depression isn't a feeling… it is the absence of feeling. Depression is a state of being. Feelings aren't coming out. They must be pretty scary to face. I suggest this. I found a story on the web called "God Enhance Music" by bud. You can Google the story. The short version is… put on some music or nature sounds of your choice and just pray asking God to put into the sounds whatever God wants to put into the music that you need. This has never failed to help with feelings. This is THE best healing method I have found. Also, learn to meditate. Spend some time in nature… nature will slow down your clocks to natures speed and support you in feeling.

    Exercise at least a little every day if possible. At least 30 minutes on the tread… done.

    Try journaling. This works because by just sitting down and writing out your story it takes a while to get it down and helps you to stay in the memories and feelings for a longer time. Don't forget those feeling words. This isn't a scientific study… it is your life.

  18. Seems more about her self promoting her accomplishments than helping others. Completely useless, if anything harmful to those struggling with depression or anxiety. I am very surprised this has so many likes.

  19. i am depressed,i have one episode at list 5 times in a month,but still have motivation to change that..just didnt work..i be depression again and i want to be in bed all day..

  20. the thing with depression is you don't recognise you have it until it gets a bit better again. and you might think – oh I must make a plan to fight it when the next wave comes. but you won't. it's eating me alive.

  21. Fellow depressed people, may I ask if your medication is working or not? She seems like having short term depression and naturally warrior and good time manager, while I'm a bad time manager so I also spend up almost all of my time zonk at bed, and my depression seems like never ending once it starts. I really envy her power though.
    Let's us all be warrior and fight depression. It is real, but resilience is also real, don't let yourself become one with depression, see them as your foe and try to fight them.

  22. I can fully relate to her story. I consider my rapid recovery to a very skilled therapist who pushed me hard to do more and more

    Basically I was told “you wanna pay 120 an hour to whine or do you wanna get better?”

  23. I'm not sure if seeing the "disease" as the enemy is a good thing, but I admire her will power by the way.

  24. “I had a happy childhood”
    can’t relate lmao

    Also, I wish that stuff like showering or eating or even just taking my meds was easy. I wish I could do things, be motivated or happy and be able to get things done. I can’t do that. Nothing is easy, nothing seems to help. I try and try and try and try and I cannot do anything and not doing things I know I have to do makes things worse

  25. Living Organs!

    "I'm going to kill myself"
    A man said this no lie,
    "No one will miss me
    So it's better if I die"

    "My life ain't worth living
    Nothing's going right,
    Only I can stop this pain
    If I die here tonight"

    Many people tried this
    Because life was insane,
    Some are now disabled
    Yet many died in pain.

    You may want to die
    But body it does not,
    When you cut yourself
    Blood will start to clot.

    You can swallow pills
    Thinking that's the trick,
    But body wants to live
    It will make you sick.

    Think about your body
    Your body is a shell,
    Protecting many organs
    Who want to live as well.

    When you go to sleep
    Your organs have a goal,
    They want to stay alive
    So now they're in control.

    Think about your organs
    You have quite a few,
    Many die who want to live
    Now we're back to you.

    Life has many hurdles
    And can cause us pain,
    But don't give up so easy
    Think about the chain.

    Chain is linked together
    Father, husband, son,
    Mother, sister, daughter
    Each and everyone.

    Take away one link
    Now chain will fall apart,
    Circle has been broken
    That is just the start.

    Chain no longer strong
    So much grief they cry,
    If you end your life
    Another link may die.

    By
    Will Mckechnie

  26. The worst thing is that with depression doctors treat everyone the same, what do they think we are, Clones with this attitude how can anyone get the right treatment. We are individuals one size does not fit all, It's all about the "Money".

  27. i have those episodes too! i'm 13, and i started getting them a year ago. they still only last a few moments, but it's pure emptiness for those moments.

  28. It's also difficult to deal with depression when everyone wants to tell you that you only talk about your problems and that your self centered and only want attention

  29. Thank you so much for the "Proactive" strategy and sharing how one can live with depression. Those 15 minutes were better than WEEKS with others. I can't thank you enough! God bless ❤️

  30. Thank you for this Jessica, you have given me hope just at the time I most need encouragement! Bless you 🙂

  31. She's trying to help as best SHE can, and she's sharing HER experience, y'all. She's definitely not going to reach everyone and tackle all personal struggles.. I appreciate this video soo much❣️

  32. I mean I'm happy it works for her but for me is hard to just get out of bed or brush my teeth so I don't see myself doing any of this anytime soon

  33. It's like she's never been depressed or she just wants to make people feel worse than they already do

  34. I love this video! I find the techniques work not only on days where you feel depressed but also if you're (mildly) ill, like tired or head achey. My favorite part is about starting with the easiest tasks and working your way to the hardest. I hear this is scientifically proven.

  35. People Don’t Want to Kill Themselves They Just Don’t Know How to Kill the Pain!!!!!!!!!

    Every Thunderstorm Runs Out of Rain!!!!!!

  36. to fight depression you have to have a reason to LIVE. Forget about all the speeches, what is your reason to LIVE? Are you truly happy? When you laugh, does it pass your lips straight to your heart? They should make euthanasia legal for people who wish it…

  37. Please get back to me I would like to work with you and share my ideas. I believe coping skills and getting things done is the only way to overcome depression or anxiety . I don’t believe a pill will ever fix this and have many ideas and plans to help . Thank you

  38. I admire her but she is tackling depression right before it gets really intense. When depression gets really intense, it’s hard to crawl out of the hole. You have to start off with very minor chores and activities to get yourself to a healthier state in order to complete bigger projects. It’s weird because she of all people ought to understand depression, because she has 5 chronic illnesses.

  39. See for me I love showers, the heat, I talk to myself, come to my best conclusions in the shower. Especially when I’m depressed.

  40. Actually most of her diseases are related, all in some regards autoimmune (some theories suggest that BPD could be related to inflammation). So I really hope we as a society could pay more attention to coping with autoimmune irregularities on people. MG is really serious, hope she's doing well in 2019.

  41. Nice motivational speech. I don't believe that her 'level' system of the difficulty of tasks works for everyone. Even thinking like that might be already too much for some. Like Chester Bennington once said: "I'm just going to crawl over to my corner and die here." So, if one feels and behaves like their 'dead' (not necessarily wanting to be dead) it might be more useful to start the day with one thought: "What is the least I could manage to do today?"
    Even going for a shower can already be tough as a 'ghost' and requires a physical rest afterwards. But it could be something to be proud of. Especially if one is lonely and has nobody who cares.

  42. Thank you so much Jessica. Your strategy has really help me and I definitely will apply it for my life. I'll try to always get better and find a silver lining.

  43. Sounds all great, but you really need support from someone to get you through the depression. Some people have caring family and friends, some don't. The family I did have that cared have all passed away, the ones left never cared for any of us here. The friends (?) I had seem to have only been my friend when they needed something, I was the first one they called. When I need help, they point me to others who they think should help. There are other friends who mean well, I guess, but they truly don't understand depression, since all they say is "Think positive", or "Snap out of it." Sometimes you really need that helping hand, and for me, no one seems to want to extend it. And forget the healthcare field where I live, they go through the motions as if you were a bother, get you in and out ASAP so they can do other stuff. It's hard beating this.

  44. Reading the comments, I feel like the depression I had when my favorite nephew passed away 25 years ago that I experienced sounds like non-depression.

  45. so heartbreaking to read that everyone else here is also going through an episode and feeling discouraged from this…it has to be really tough times before I start watching depression ted talks on youtube for solutions anyway… :-/

  46. Get up when you can't get up. Be motivated when there's no motivation… What? But yes, I at least agree with the baby steps. Self-love meditation even while laying in bed help a lot (there are plenty on YouTube) because as long as we hate ourselves for being inactive it will become worse. Meaning the first step is, to love myself unconditionally and accept who I am with all my flaws and illnesses. Go to your mirror and say: "Good morning, I love myself and forgive me all my mistakes!" This is my "ladder" out of the darkness.

  47. I'm glad that this video creates a space where people who live with mental ilnesses can share their stories. It is so important to do, because it brings awarness to society and maybe one person will feel better for not being so alone. We definetly needed the place like that. So thank you, everyone who told their story.

  48. Title should be "How to get stuff done when you are feeling down (or sad)." These are not very ideal 'tips' for real depression.

  49. Know yourself
    Yep. Oddly enough, making lists and plans makes me even more depressed and unable to become motivated. I feel weighed down by to-do lists and I just don't ever want to do what I wrote down. I think my situation is my biggest depression trigger. I just can't figure out the right career for me. If I knew, I could hurry up and get out on my own. I'm on my third college degree and it feels like there's no light at the end of the tunnel. Not having a life I can call my own…at my age…it's beyond depressing. A lot of days I find it meaningless to even get out of bed.

  50. Actually, her description of her first 'coming to awareness' of depression, sounds very much as though she had a huge flash of insight into the futility of life as packaged by modern western society. Occasionally, you will find brilliant kids who can see through all the BS long before the schools have had a chance to brainwash the ability out of them.

  51. Ok, I’m scared reading so many comments where people say taking a shower is hard. This is so sad, how can there be so many people feeling so helpless? I have no idea how depression works, but since Idk what to do to help, I’m gonna make a list of the beautiful things in life worth living for:
    1. Animals (pure and innocent)
    2. Ice cream
    3. Music
    4. Dance
    5. Babies
    6. Helping people who need you (any way you can)
    7. The wind
    8. Swimming
    9. Nature in general (fruits, trees, flowers)
    10. Birds singing
    11. Your own singing
    I wanna ask you guys if you can:
    Try to do some of these things everyday.
    Put on some happy music and dance and sing along
    Listen to the birds sing and feel the wind or dance in the rain
    Go swimming
    Eat fruits and read about the benefits of the ones you’re eating
    Play with babies (if you have any in your family or if you have friends who have babies)
    Try a different flavor of ice cream
    Help somebody (anybody, with anything)
    And always, ALWAYS keep one thought: I am worth it, I deserve happiness and I will make this happen.

  52. But where do you get the energy to do the 3 Star things in the morning, when you wake up depressed every day and need to watch a movie or something before you feel alive?

  53. I see a lot of comments attacking this women for “not truly being depressed” or “not knowing what she is talking about”. Guys, depression is different for everyone, everyone is different. These tips may help one person, but be worthless to another. Don’t throw away everything she is saying because of all the negative comments. That fact that your here means you want to change, and you will, keep pushing, even if this video doesn’t help, you will get better eventually. Keep on keeping on.

  54. How is blowin' your own trumpet going to help people with depression especially those who are in their 30's and up? People who haven't accomplished a thing because depression is too crippling they could hardly move and get out of bed.

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